Your mindset isn’t the problem (here’s what is)
But here’s the thing. Mindset is messy.
Hello again!!
In last week’s email, I brought up my unfavourite word. Mindset.
Thank you to my readers, who replied with meaningful conversation around what word would be more appropriate.
But here’s the thing. Mindset is messy.
Many of us have hidden issues, ancestral wounds and unresolved trauma, which affect everything we do. Our lives are processed through these genetic bookmarks (the intersectionality of trauma). Unless we have deep insight into our psyche, this information is under lock and key for our utmost safety and survival.
But let’s go here for a messy minute. 👇
Denise Duffield-Thomas is the money mindset mentor for the new wave of online entrepreneurs who want to make money and change the world.
She helps women charge premium prices, release the fear of money and create First Class lives.
Everybody wants that, right?
A few years back (let’s call it the 100 lessons of 2016/17), I desperately wanted to be the woman Denise described amidst correcting course with my food and alcohol addiction.
The promise looked so good!
Buckets of money, changing the world, charging premium prices, releasing fear.
Yes, please. (Make them want me as much as I want you, Denise!!)
But my balls-in-the-air looked very different.
I desperately fended off bill collectors, begging for a sign, borrowing from savings, managing enormous stress, and trying not to destroy my marriage, career, and life.
It was the exact problem I was trying to solve by paying embarrassing amounts of money to create that First-Class life and change my MINDSET.
Both trauma and oppression signal our brain and body in similar ways. The brain is equipped to respond intensely to dangerous situations and experiences.
Oppression occurs when our lives are systematically subjected to some type of degradation because we are doing our darndest to belong or generate “enoughness.” This results in structures of domination and subordination. And shows up in the ping-ponging of superiority and inferiority.
Avoidance is a natural response to unhealthy and abnormal amounts of stress.
We do this for survival.
Mindset programs are based on myth, not fact.
Healing trauma and resilience grow when we can bring our full selves into the process—when we are fully acknowledged and safe.
I want to offer you more than a fairy tale. It takes guts, but I am here for it.
Thank you for letting me get honest about healing.
I am so grateful you are here too.
I love you.
