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can we please just be honest

Welcome to the first and only edition of "Can We Please Just Be Honest." 

This week, we delve into the profound importance of talking to ourselves truth bomb style. 

I know it is hard, but why is it more accessible to lie and shirk responsibility? We quickly regress into confronting childish impulses that tug at us, urging us towards instant gratification rather than recognizing the deeper patterns underlying our behaviour.

Facing the Truth

It is challenging to admit we're wrong or have made a mistake. Glossing over the truth is far more tempting than shifting blame onto others or ignoring our missteps. But actual growth and self-improvement require a willingness to admit we are scared and face the truth head-on, adult-style.

The Child Within

We all have parts of us that remain childish and crave immediate pleasure without considering the consequences. This is the part that wants candy bars and ice cream, regardless of how they affect our brains and bodies. But here's a reality check: those life choices are like sugar highs; they are our addictions. The heights might feel great in the moment, but they're not helping us or doing us any good in the long run. 

Understanding Our Patterns

How do we keep making the same mistakes over and over? We've all been caught in the crosshairs of responsibility dodging and impulse indulging. These patterns serve a purpose at some point in our lives, perhaps as coping mechanisms in times of chaos or trauma. As adults, what once protected us in childhood holds us back.

Reprogramming Our Responses

Self-reflection on our choices and self-awareness of these patterns are the first steps toward better choices and responses. Recovery requires a commitment to transparency and honesty with ourselves and others. We can break free from harmful cycles by taking responsibility for our actions. Phew! I promise I have a calendar full of sobriety dates, 2024 even.

Embracing Growth

Ultimately, honesty with ourselves is critical to personal growth and self-discovery. Be gentle with yourself enough to recognize your flaws and imperfections without judgment, regret or shame. Use that awareness, square up to the truth, and put on your fear goggles to propel you toward becoming your best version.

Final Thoughts

Life is already painful or challenging; be honest with yourself, even when complicated. Acknowledge the influence of our existential loneliness of the inner child and the patterns that shape our behaviour. We can then strive to make choices that align with our long-term relationships and connection to ourselves and humankind. 

The power of honesty transforms our trust in the world. So, let's strap in, embrace the awkwardness, and bloom like tulips in April. Take responsibility for your growth and watch humanity flourish together.

being real,